How do you move on after losing a spouse?

[kcareconnections]

Becoming a widow or widower is so incredibly difficult. It can be so hard to try to love again. Anyone have tips on how to try to move on?

[p7mwangi]

When your spouse dies, your world changes. You are in mourning—feeling grief and sorrow at the loss. You may feel numb, shocked, and fearful. You may feel guilty for being the one who is still alive. At some point, you may even feel angry at your spouse for leaving you. All of these feelings are normal. There are no rules about how you should feel. There is no right or wrong way to mourn.

When you grieve, you can feel both physical and emotional pain.
Here are some tips on how to get around it.

Mourning the Death of a Spouse

[LAjackson]

I asked the same question. How do you move on? Unfortunately you never move on. As a matter of fact, how dare you move on? It’s impossible especially when it’s someone you love. So let’s ask another question. How do you learn to live without a loved one? That’s the question I can answer. First you have to face the fact that the loved one is never returning. That is the harsh truth of this matter. No matter how you try to look at it, you will never see that person again (in this life time). Then you start the mourning and grieving process. I disagree there is a wrong way to mourn. Some people have picked up addictions looking to fill that void after a loved one passes away. Again, I won’t touch on that one because I am not a professional. However, I think it is important to gradually create a new routine for yourself. Never think that you’re trying to “get over” or “forget about” the deceased but after someone special leaves us in the world life still goes on. It becomes unhealthy when your life stops because that person is no longer available to you. We have to allow life’s cycle into our lives. We don’t have a choice. Again, the answer to your question is you never move on from a deceased spouse. You learn to live without them. You determine how that’s done.